Personal Opinions


The best thing anyone could ever ask for is, a person who knows what you have been through and who understands and does not judge you. They are the same people you can count on at anytime and any day.

Why am I saying this? I have been through this myself. I mean, getting advice from people who don’t know how it feels to be in your situation. Many a times we run to best friends, other times to relatives e.g. cousins, at times anyone who comes your way. This is wrong, I am not saying be an introvert, am saying vent to the right person. Best friends, cousins etc can work when you need someone to listen to you, but sometimes they can’t help because they have no idea what you are talking about. “One time I needed help with my spiritual life and the person closest to me was my best friend. I hadn’t yet made friends, I mean real friends who I can talk to about this, in church. At that time my best friend hadn’t taken the church “thing” seriously. So I wasn’t really comfortable telling her what was bothering me because she wouldn’t understand. I believe she couldn’t help me. If she was saved and took salvation seriously then she would have been of great help.”

So who do you need to tell what you’re going through? You need to open up to someone, first of all someone you can trust and you are comfortable with. Second, someone more mature than you, someone who has been through what you are going through and has come out of the situation a winner. Lastly someone who believes in God. These guys will refer you to the best adviser, i.e. the bible. The bible has answers to all our questions; it has solutions to all our problems.

With age comes wisdom, so the younger we are the unreasonable way we vent. We talk to friends who are our age mates or slightly older and can manipulate us. They tell us things that young people want to hear but not what they need to. Things that get them hyped. Things like drugs, sex, homosexuality, pornography and other sorts of malice. This destroys them, so they need to get advice from the right guys. who have experience and are wise.